Pricey ABBY: I have a handyman performing function on my household. I observed that when he works by using the lavatory, he is in there a whilst and likely variety two. My stress and anxiety ranges are via the roof. Do I tell him something, and what need to I say? — Anxious Woman IN CALIFORNIA
Dear Woman: Could I share a truism? When we gotta go, we gotta go. If your handyman leaves the toilet in the same situation when he exits as when he goes in there, you have absolutely nothing to be “anxious” about. Be gracious, and when you require a handyman there will always be an individual inclined to help you.
Expensive ABBY: My co-worker will take gain of our employer’s generous ill depart coverage and phone calls in ill commonly. She will return the following working day with no outward signal of ailment and has, on quite a few occasions, returned with a fresh haircut and manicure. When she’s at perform, she often ways away from her desk for personalized phone calls.
I last but not least stated a thing to our supervisor due to the fact I feel taken edge of. Possessing labored in this office for additional than 10 decades, I know the get the job done within and out, so I can do my perform — and hers — with ease. I really like my co-employee, but I sense she’s having me for granted. Our supervisor experienced a chat with her, but it didn’t enable. Would it be unreasonable for me to have a frank dialogue with her specifically? I foresee that it may possibly lead to a awesome reception, but I’m dropping persistence. — CO-Worker CONUNDRUM
Expensive CO-Employee: It’s not unreasonable to communicate with this co-employee, but what have you to attain by confronting her and what do you have to shed? If it will induce a frostier operate surroundings, do not do it. A superior answer would be to quit undertaking her operate for her. Getting to face the repercussions of slacking might give her an incentive to transform her approaches.
Dear ABBY: My husband of lots of yrs is attractive and sweet each early morning, but following consuming, which he does just about every day commencing at 4 or 5 o’clock, his character variations. I have to be exceptionally watchful of each word I say or I will be the receiver of his sarcasm and/or anger, so I’m anxious and anxious every evening until he goes to slumber, which, the good news is, is pretty early.
In the morning he expects me to be happy and cheerful as if nothing went on the night time in advance of. I have experimented with to talk about this with him, but it doesn’t assistance. Following a long time of this, I have grow to be depressed and would actually appreciate your guidance. — AT WITS’ Conclude IN FLORIDA
Dear AT WITS’ Close: You are married to an alcoholic. Relationship to a verbally abusive alcoholic would make anyone depressed! I can only surprise why you have decided on to tolerate this for so lengthy.
The path toward a alternative to your dilemma would get started with locating the nearest Al-Anon conference and attending some of them. If you do, you will locate the support and help you are on the lookout for. You can locate a close by conference by viewing al-anon.org/data.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also regarded as Jeanne Phillips, and was established by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Call Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.